audry921
I got mad at bf ..hes been un employed and around the house dang near 24/7 for 3 months. I work 40 hrs a week.I said you dont do..certain things around the house…he gets mad at me saying im wrong& well he took his stuff upstairs& i know he wont talk to me & probably say hes moving out….ill be alone..ill have to fix my own car etc& ..Basically im in the wrong . Am I? I mean if he does move out.. yes it will hurt initially money wise w the cars needing fixed. That he could do . but I will survive ..
Pixie Dust (pixiedust28)
Hi Audry,
From the outside looking in, it seems like you are expressing your needs and boundaries, and he is avoiding the core taking any accountability in the partnership. Relationships can’t function if disagreements automatically turn into emotional withdrawal. If you would like to explore this in more depth, I am available.
Bright blessings, Pixie
Angel Messenger (angels_messenger)
It is completely understandable that you feel frustrated. Working 40 hours a week while your partner has been home for three months creates a significant imbalance in “mental load” and physical labor. From an LOA perspective, your current reality is a reflection of your dominant internal state—including your fears of being “alone” or “wrong”. Its also obvious your partner is feeling lost and he’s obviously not communicating this with you. Best was to approach this IMO is to Shift Your “Self-Concept” Law of assumption says, everyone is “you pushed out. Meaning you are connected to the people in your inner circle and you will manifest according to your frequency (You are like a magnet pulling things to you with your words and your thoughts). “If you assume you are “the one in the wrong” or “the one who will be left alone,” the universe will continue to prove you right. The Assumption: Start assuming a new identity: Affirm out loud for 10 minutes in the morning and 10 minutes right before bed time : “I am in a relationship where I am lovingly supported and chores are shared effortlessly”. “My SP is so happy and grateful now that he has a new job with good hours and great pay”. If done daily things will start to shift within a few weeks. We all go thru challenges. We all let our fears get the best of us. Its important to forgive yourself because at the end of the day its not about right or wrong, it’s about you letting your mind speak when it was your heart that wanted to do the talking. If you need any help with a daily routine or if you just have some questions as to how to balance out the energy between you and your Special Person, don’t hesitate to reach out. Have a blessed evening.
Romina's Readings Australia (rominas_readings_australia)
It sounds like you simply spoke up about what you need. That is not wrong. Wanting balance and support in a relationship is reasonable. Setting a boundary can sometimes upset the other person, especially if it shifts the dynamic they are used to.
What stood out to me is that you said you will survive. That says a lot about your strength. You clearly know your own resilience, even if this moment feels uncertain.
Mondez Durden (mondezdurden)
It is not always what we say—but how it is said, and the circumstances surrounding the situation. Is he willingly unemployed? It doesn’t feel like it. But it also felt like he’s not putting in the effort to do more to fix the situation. Your frustration about his situation is more than fair. The real question is: how is that frustration expressed?
Also, what kind of partner gets upset with you for simply venting? Yes, you have used strong words, but you were speaking from stress and concern about real financial pressure. At the same time, he could also take a moment to appreciate what you’re going through.
From what you’ve shared, it doesn’t sound like you were in the wrong. It also doesn’t sound like the foundation of this relationship was where it needed to be to handle the stress of his long-term unemployment—or how he’s handled it, placing a burden on you.
Sometimes it’s not as simple as one person being right and the other wrong. It can be simply an outcome of how things unsaid and unresolved built up tension to the point where an argument could cause a break.
Your needs aren’t being met, and there may be unspoken shame or resentment on his side that isn’t being communicated well.
Your fear that he doesn’t fully appreciate you is valid. At the same time, how we speak to our loved ones—even when we’re upset—does matter, and that’s a fair point on his end.
So, no, you’re not in the wrong. This feels like the result of smaller issues that went unaddressed over time, until the stress of him losing his job and the lack of urgency in how he’s handled that loss pushed both of you past your limits.
At its core, this is about communication, empathy, and a lack of initiative from someone who should be doing everything he can to stand on his own and contribute—rather than leaving you to carry that weight.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this, my friend. If you need to explore the deeper emotional dynamics that led to this, and see if there is a way to work through it, I’m here to help. Either way, you are capable of building a life with or without him. No paycheck or companionship from a partner is worth more than your peace of mind—feeling respected, supported, and uplifted by the person with whom you share your life.