Ellie C (bamboobunny)

hi, i’m in a loving relationship right now that i’m happily in but the thoughts of my ex keep coming back to me even though it’s been almost a year. i feel like im still energetically connected to him because no matter how hard i try to forget him he pops into my mind sometimes and the thought won’t leave. how do i stop and what’s preventing me? is he thinking of me too, is that why? i always felt an extremely strong pull to him from our first meeting to our last that i’ve never felt with anyone else :/

Gemini Moon Readings (gemini_moon)

To stop, you need to focus on yourself, which means work, your own life, your routines, etc.

Nothing is preventing you from stopping, it’s just about time really.

I’m more of a practical person, so I wouldn’t say it has anything to do with being energetically connected. I would say it’s because there’s an emotional imprint there still on your end in regards to him, which is normal, and it really is just down to giving it time to accept what’s happening, and be patient.

Hope this helps, best of luck

Lauren Divine (lauren_divine)

Hello Ellie hope every message here finds you well.

I agree with Gemini it’s sort of like “Muscle memory” where apart of you is still used to that person and you haven’t quite adapted to change yet (and most likely moved on when you’re still not ready which is common) the only way to stop is let nature run it’s course and continue moving forward which time does heal all but working on yourself, your own life and whatnot does make the process easier.

If you’d like to read further into this or anything else I would be more than happy to hon! Happy Holidays xoxo

Reverend Luna (reverendluna)

Every relationship has a contract and sometimes those contracts are still not complete when we break up. Added to that, we create a feedback loop in our brain when we are with someone we love and that loop does not just go away when we end a relationship.

So if you are working with an advisor, ask them what was in the soul contract. What needs to be complete?

On your own you can set the intention to return his energy to him and ask him to return any of your energy. Notice if you have resistance to this and if so, ask yourself what its about and if you can release it.

Zella Tarot (zellaintuitivetarot)

Hi Ellie, It sounds like your ex made a deep impression on you. Thoughts of him are a habit. I’m here if you want to explore this to find a solution. There are certainly things you can do to get rid of the intrusive thoughts. I’d love to help you. Feel welcome to contact me on Bitwine. Blessings Zella

Alana (psychicalana)

Hi Ellie, :)

You are so focused on trying to stop the thoughts that they come through even harder. Its okay to have memories and feel. I would just to suggest to be easy on yourself you are feeling the loss of the life you thought you would have. In these moments just redirect your mind to something that makes you happy, listen to music, start a new hobby, focus on painting and not when they will stop eventually they just do.

It is not because he is thinking of you or this spiritual connection. That is you trying to rationalize the loss.

I am here if you want to talk more about this.

Alana

Antara Vachetta (antaratarocchi)

I hear you, shift how you relate to the thoughts, whats coming up is unprocessed emotional material contained in the depths of your psyche, the reason the thoughts are coming up, is because youre sub conscious is helping you to heal from this past. It’s just part of the process, allow them to come and go, dont force yourself to release them as that only hinders the release process. Just allow it to unfold naturally. If you need a reading feel free to come connect