Cathy (bluearrow)

My oldest boy is almost 21 years old and has always done things the hard way. His dad and I divorced when he was 4 and he has always longed for some attention from him. His father has never been there for him. I remarried and he had a lovely relationship with my husband and I til he hit puberty when our relationship with him became strained. I lost my father recently and this has triggered another round of his abusive behaviour. I really dont know what to do anymore, do I continue to wait for him to grow up?

catty spiritual advisor (catty)

hi cathy.

you said abusive is your son abusive toward you? if so he need to speake to a proffessional. send me a e-mail with his and your dob. and i’ll see what i can pic up on or lets chat and get this strightened out.

thanks catty.

Starsalign (starsalign)

Hi Cathy.please message me with your dates of birth,and i will provide you a brief 3 tarot card reading,free of charge by message.

Currently i have the lovers reversed,this represents internal conflicts,dishonesty,and making bad,self destructive choices,on your sons part.Message me so we can look into this further,many blessings and good luck regardless-stacy

Ashley Nicole Martin (mirror_of_infinity)

He is definitly having issues with one his biological father not being there, and two his grandfather which would be another male figure he looked up to. See if your husband can still establish a relationship with him. He is really affected by not having his father in his life at the very base line here.

If you can contact me,I can see if I can tell you exactly why he may be acting this way… and help you to figure out what you need to do here to best help your boy…

wishes of peace and ease in finding the light on all of this…

Debbie (angel90)

He needs in depth grief councelling to deal with whats happened as it seems his behaviour is his outlet for the built up anger he is carrying around. Only problem he is 21 and probably in denial. You could try intervention through the courts. But personally I would speak to a professional in terms of the types of intervention you have available. The fact that he is abusive thats a clear indication that its his outlet for the pain and anger he has bottled up. People have their own way of dealing with pain and anger some cut themselves, some have an eating disorder, some commit crime its their way of releasing what they feel. The problem is a person who is going through this doesn’t see how their behaviour affects others until its too late. He needs help by you talking to a professional you can then decide the best course of action as he is on self destruct and unless you intervene its only going to get worse waiting is not an option. The courts maybe your only option but do seek advice from a professional first who specialises in this.

Annabell (readingsbyannabell)

for a most accurate reading come and chat with me with dob would be happy to help Annabell :)

Sheta Kaey (shetakaey)

Is he the only child of his father, or of yours?

How does the loss of your father trigger your son’s behavior? You place yourself in the middle, by referring to your father but not to “his grandfather,” and then you remove yourself from the equation altogether by having the death triggering his “abusive behavior.” Where are you in that situation? Are you aware of this dichotomy?

Any avenue of communication requires two parties. What are you doing to understand your son’s perspective?

MRS.LEA.GARCIA☼ (ms.lea.garcia)

hello cathy i am Lea :) sorry to hear your stress if you can click my name and call me and provide your son and hubands name aswell i will be able to make a connection nand give you accurate guidance to whats the best solution :) GodBless