Gemini Moon Readings ✧ (gemini_moon)

In my work of doing energy readings, I am often asked, “What did my POI mean when he said this?” And sometimes it comes from a fear based place, or a place of defensiveness.

Sometimes, depending on various reasons, we can find ourselves overthinking about things that our special person has said to us.

Sometimes, it could be even a relative, or friend. Someone that the connection we share is more “platonic” rather than “romantic” based.

If you find yourself always thinking negative about what someone has said to you…there might be a reason why.

Sometimes, it is due to the persons tone. But if you find yourself feeling this way often, about many people, it could be a pattern. And patterns like this can form due to the following:

- Raised in a passive aggressive household

- You yourself are extremely defensive

- You were taught to always “read between the lines” (but…you don’t realize, or don’t believe that there are people who simply “mean what they say” and tell it directly, with no hidden subtext)

- Your fears, your biases are the lens in which you “read” everyones statements and / or questions

- You don’t trust others and can’t take them at face value

Do you find your special person is always defending what they said, to you? Do they often say, “That’s not what I meant.”

If so, there are steps you can take to work on this character trait.

First, read yourself. Are you automatically feeling skeptical, are you automatically assuming you are being criticized? Focus on how you are feeling.

Second, clarify with the person. Ask them, “Can you explain further?” And be sure to be non – accusatory.

Focus on what they are really saying, not jumping to conclusions based on certain words or phrases that might be triggering you.

Fixing defensiveness, and resetting passive aggressive forms of communication is something that will take time to fix, but it can greatly benefit your level of happiness in your relationships.