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Finding Closure After a Breakup

Breakups can be tough, but getting closure doesn’t have to feel impossible. While we often hope for a final conversation or some grand explanation, real closure is something we create for ourselves. Here’s how:

1. You may be waiting for answers that aren’t coming from him?

Trying to make sense of everything might keep you stuck. Instead of waiting on an ex to give you closure, focus on what YOU need—whether it’s time, reflection, or putting your energy into another area of your life. Distraction can help, self-help heals, support from other sources for example.

2. Understand the Emotional Rollercoaster

Breakups come with all sorts of emotions—some expected, some totally unpredictable. Instead of bottling everything up, let yourself go through the ups and downs. There are stages of grief and loss, be patient with yourself, be accepting that you will go through these stages. You will heal and recover in time.

3. Set Boundaries and Stick to Them

If staying in touch is keeping you from moving on, it’s okay to cut ties (at least for a while). Unfollow, or even do a little digital detox if that’s what helps you move forward. You are doing this for yourself, its time now to make healthy choices for yourself.

4. Forgiveness Is for You, Not Them

Forgiving doesn’t mean excusing bad behavior—it means letting go of the anger that’s weighing you down. This is about freeing YOURSELF, not giving anyone a pass. You are still you, lovable, valuable, worthwhile. Even though you may be hurt now you will feel stronger some day soon. Healing is a process.

5. Reframe the Story

This wasn’t a failure—it was a chapter in your life that helped shape you. Closure isn’t about finding the perfect ending; it’s about accepting what happened and looking ahead to better things. Re frame how you see things in your mind. Monitor your self talk. Be kind to yourself in your own mind. Seek balance.

Letting go takes time, but with a little patience and self-care, you’ll get there. The best part? Closure isn’t something you have to wait for—it’s something you create.

I am Ananda, a full time professional Psychic. Weekday mornings early USA time you will find me on Bitwine.