Some Things Just Are Not Meant To Be : News & Articles

Heavenly Sunshine (heavenlyarchangel12)

Hearing from a lot of people I understand that it’s hard to let go of someone you’ve made an emotional attachment too along the way. Whether it is just a friend or lover some things are just not meant to be. For what ever reason your personalities might just clash. You may have two different belief systems. You may have been brought up in to different cultures, religions, families, and society. We can never determine why people have chosen not to have a relationship with us or stick around. While you may feel you have some kind of spiritual connection with some of these people, it may also be one to teach you certain lessons.

For example, you may have a problem with wanting attention from someone. Perhaps when they reject you, you feel you need to know why? You will keep trying to figure it out, even blame yourself, or feel there is something wrong with you. Some people just don’t like you. Just like you don’t like some people for what ever the reason. There is no use beating up yourself because others have not paid attention to you, or been the ideal friend in your life. While you may have wanted to pursue the friendship, or want to be more than friends with the opposite sex, not every one is meant to be our friend, or even a lover in our lives. While you may have a crush on them, it doesn’t mean they have one on you. While you focus on them so much you are establishing an unhealthy emotional attachment on them. You are hurting yourself by fixating on them hoping some how they will notice you and chase after you. You must let go of the situation and move on.

Some times they are just being nice and don’t want to hurt your feelings. Some times they are just being nice period. They don’t want anything more with you other than being there for the moment. Some how you maybe expecting them to be or give you something more than they are capable of giving you in the moment. If you are an emotional person you may feel that you are being rejected, and perhaps in a sense you are, but figure out why you are feeling bad about yourself when someone rejects you. Do you need there approval? Do you need their attention? If you do ask yourself why? You should be secure in yourself whether they pay any attention to you or not. There are also plenty of people out there that will be a better friend to you, or even a lover. Focusing on the same person over time, you will get stuck and never move forward. Release them from you, and open the door for new relationships to step into your life.

Never wait for them to come back into your life. It may never happen, and if you did, both of you have probably changed so much you no longer have anything in common. Life keeps moving even if you find your self day dreaming of the past. You can only get stuck and stop yourself from enjoying life. Some things are just not meant to be. This doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. Everything happens for a reason and we don’t always know that reason. Some times people are not healthy for us in the first place although we may think so at the time.